Living In Black

Monday, May 29, 2006

I guessed I had talked too much about food that it had started to get boring... Thus I decided to go back to my usual philosophy topics. Today I'll talk about a phrase which consist of only 3 words. Although there are only so little words, but they weighed a lot~! This 3 words are what that holds our family together, in fact they what that holds everyone together~! These 3 words are "I Love You"~!

But now my question to all of you are... What do these 3 words mean to you~? How do you say/use/show them~? And lastly, when do you say/use/show them~? Take a few minutes to think through these 3 questions before proceeding forward to read my entry ya...

Ready~?

Are You Sure You're Ready~?

Here Goes...

The meaning of love is "A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance." Honestly, I don't know the whole crap of rubbish written here... It's taken out from a dictionary. What it mean anyway~?!!!

For me, "I Love You" is not just 3 words to show affection for someone whom you felt dearly with, it far beyond that. They were everything, from morning greetings we exchange when we woke up, to the romantic moments we shared together with our loved ones. Not just the love & concern that we showed to each other on special occasions (Like exchanging presents on Valentine's Day), but also the little bit of special something we do for each other everyday (Like getting him/her a glass of water ,when he/she is busy with his/her stuff). The list goes on and on... I think you'll get what I mean...

Now, how do we say them~? Saying "I Love You" isn't about saying it verbally. It can be a look or expression, the way you look at each other. It can also be a form of touch, a kiss, or even a simple hug~! It's funny how such simple gestures we make can mean so much, but yet, are we aware of them~? I believed that most of us might have experiences, whereby, you look upon your loved ones in the eyes (or vice versa), you know that you loved him/her so dearly, but yet you just didn't say anything verbally at all. Had you~? There were many incidents that I remembered when I was wooing JingLin, whereby there were many times that I wanted to tell her how much I loved her, but I couldn't (due to some other reasons). Maybe the time wasn't right or something... Anyway by just looking at her, I believed she had gotten the message somehow. And it was great, I mean, sometimes certain thing were better not said, but felt... Things might felt differently if I were to say them out... So what do you think~?

Now, the ultimate question~? When do we say "I Love You"~? If you're saying that, it only happens when it's romantic, or when we're happy & content with each other... Then my friend, that's when I'll disagree with you totally~! To me, love is most felt when one is sad. However, love is most challenge when we're in a bad mood or angry~! See, how many of us are guilty of at least one of the followings...?

[1] You started to pin-point each other's flaws, or past history during a quarrel~?

[2] "Agreed" with the other party unwillingly with the "Erm", "Arh" and "Orh" . . . etc~?

[3] Calling each other names during a quarrel~? (I personally find this the most funny one~!)

[4] The Cold War . . .

[5] Adultery (I hated this the most~! *!#$%@!)

The list goes on...

I'm guilty of more than of the above mentioned this lifetime. It's funny how I used to say "I Love You" to my ex-girlfriends, but yet guilty of hurting the other party... As I lived on my life, I slowly learn more about what love is all about. Some people say "I Love You" so easily, like just breathing oxygen into their lungs, but not knowing that they had abused the true meaning of it. Maybe that's why a lot of people was mislead by so many other people. We normally term these people "players", or "gamers". When we swear to the other party on how much we loved them, do we actually ask ourselves this... "Do I love him/her so much that I'm willing to let go of my pride and all, and give in to him/her totally & willingly~?", or "Am I really prepared to do anything, anything at all for him/her~?" Words used correctly in the nicest tone can be so smooth to the ears, but what matters the most isn't the brain, where the ears transmit the words to. It the heart that really matters in the end, we can smooth talk so much to the other person, he/she might felt good to hear them, but how long would they lasted~? So what if we kept saying them, would they have the same effect as ever~? I doubt so... Although such sweet nothings might seems to give us a good start, but I think they would never get us far enough. All I wish to say is, remember that when every time we say "I Love You" to anyone, do be reminded of the weight that comes with it...

This entry is actually for my most love one, JingLin... Dear, I wanted you to know that my love for you doesn't just come only when we're in the happy seasons, but also the dark seasons whereby we had our quarrels and all. I'm still learning to treat you right, love you the correct way, and with the right attitude. I had to thank you for showing me so much in life, and always there for me. I don't how to thank you enough though, and loving you forever, doesn't even seems long enough...

From Your Husband-To-Be,

Stanley

Posted by Stanley @ 10:45 PM