Living In Black

Tuesday, April 19, 2005

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Do you peeps bring work back home, especially those who are married~? Do your love ones felt neglected when you're busy doing your own work~? Work will never be finish doing, but if you don't do it at all, there'll be work left all over the place. Thus work is work, but don't over work. Some of us not only bring work back home, but also the feeling that comes from work. When we work in this society, shits happened~! That's no doubt about it... Thus at times, some of us felt rather stressful, or sad, or even frustrated. And if such negative feelings were brought home, what happens...?

In our home, that's where most our love ones are. And if you accidentally take it out on them, which is so common, you'll hurt and scar them, badly... And you'll feel so regretful then, but isn't that a bit too late~?

Husband Playing Game, Wife Felt So BORED Behind~!

Scenario Post By JingLin & Stanley

So the Number 1 Rule is, "Try Not To Bring Work Back Home". Not just work, literally, but also the feelings that comes with it. Although sometimes I too, failed to do so, but I had always make it a point to keep up such good practice. Will you join me too~? *WiNkZ*

Oh, last thing to note. Try to say "I Love You" to your love ones more often. Especially to your parents, do you remember the last time that you had said something like that to them~? Err... If you think it's too mushy, you can do something special or what. Like taking them out for a dinner...etc... They WILL feel it one, trust me~!

Posted by Stanley @ 11:19 AM

Thursday, April 14, 2005

Finally~! I must say... Sorry to keep you peeps waiting so long for just one pathetic blog entry of mine. I had been REALLY busy recently, and I wonder why. IPPT is round the corner, not only am I not prepared yet, and I'm putting on more weight~! *DuHzZz* This time round I think sure failed already.

Anyway, I wonder why got so many people think it's me who wrote the previous entry (Pretty Woman 'The Movie')~? Do I really portray such an cheapo image to you peeps~? *sigh* I hope not... However, I do agreed with JingLin that ladies should not taken certain advantages just because they're ladies. Know what I mean~? Of course not things like little cab fares or guys opening the car door for you...etc... I'm talking about things like free drinks (Especially Alcoholic Ones) and stuffs, and not one glass or what ya, but jugs after jugs, occasions after occasions. Some, I mean some only, even got themselves hurt in the end. I know that most of you ladies love & respect yourselves, thus I believed that you do anything stupid. So please don't get agitated when reading JingLin's entry. She's not pointing her finger at you and saying that YOU ARE THE ONE. She's just being concern over you fine ladies out there, hoping that you'll not be a victim of such incidents. There had been a few similar incidents that had happened within our circle of friends, didn't you too encounter the same thing too...?

I guess that this particular sensitive issue had been said enough already, we shall end it here ya. No one is wrong or blame here ok. It's just a reminder for my friends reading my blog to take more precaution, that's all. Thus, please do not get us wrong, we only mean good. *WiNkZ* Anyway, if in any way that JingLin had offended you with her entry, I'm sorry ok. I'm sure she felt that way too.

Now back to my entry...

Photo Is Courtesy Of Winnie Herself

About 2 weeks ago, Winnie celebrated her 21st Birthday. So many people turn out at her house. Most of them JingLin & I both don't know one. And that day we were like so ill fated like that... We miss the bus, yet it was only later that we both knew that we had board the wrong bus. Luckily we still manage to reach Winnie's place with Weny on time, a little late though. We all stayed at her house for quite some time, before we head to our next destination, Gotham Penthouse at Clark Quay. And that's also where I'll talk more about it~!

Gotham Penthouse @ Clark Quay

I Like This Deco The Most.

So Artistically Beautiful~!

People I know who went to Gotham Penthouse are Winnie & her cousin Carina, Weny, Jamie, Emily & Jonathon, Hui Qing, Zhao Ting, JingLin & Me. The place was quite nicely set up. Kinda posh, I must say. Which initially gave me quite a good feeling with the place. Entrance fee was dirt cheap. At S$12/- for both ladies & men, yet ladies still get free flow of vodka that particular night. And the restrooms quite special too, a bit like hotel standard, which is not bad for a club. *thumbs up* Then hell happens for the next few hours...

The Signs Of The Restrooms

In the club, they played mainly R&B, which is good. Then it's a Caucasian club, meaning you'll see quite a few Ang Mos & Black People there... And that's the problem~! Not the Caucasians or what, but us~! Local Singaporeans...! I always wonder, why the hell do most of us always look upon Ang Mos as though they're 1st class citizens, while we're of 2nd class~?!! That's how I feel in the club~! Although the servers & stuffs there are all friendly, but I just have this feeling in me. JingLin felt the same way too. Then I look around the club, there are so many chicks there in the club, as though trying very hard to get hooked by an Ang Mo. Why is this so... Then came these local pathetic guys, trying so hard to act as though they are the Ang Mos too. Giving all those crap & bullsh_t that they're Players Of Life, or whatsoever~! Oh come on...! In short, they're just always waiting & making opportunities to get laid, isn't that so. Honestly, I'm still pretty pissed with what I saw that day. There's still this thingy that happened~! But, I shall not blog about it, because it's personal.

I shall now end this entry... Quote of the day, "Love & Respect Yourself, And Others Will Do The Same To You~!"

Posted by Stanley @ 9:42 AM

Tuesday, April 12, 2005

Haiz.. I feel forced to post another entry... Hehe... kidding la. Anyway, I want to apologize to Ms. Ru Hua. I believe, given your utter beauty, guys would be paying to breathe the same air as you. I'm sorry I bothered. You would never understand.

Firstly, everything I wrote is very subjective. It's how I feel. You don't have to feel the same way. And erm, what I meant in my previous entry is that, normally it's FINE for guys to pay for the cab fare once in a while. :)

Yes Emily, you're right, I feel that girls nowadays ARE becoming more materialistic. As in they don't go for the heart but instead, the pocket (money). But of course, they are the minority.

To 'someone'. Yup, Singapore is shaping us all into such money minded creatures, men and women alike. We cannot blame it on society totally also, as we too have a part to play in deciding our character. But I emphasized on the ladies as they might stand to lose out more in the end. I too, did state that there are super nice pple also. I didn't really say that i based all these on a person's looks. What I really meant are the actions.

Plus, to Ginny. YES~! Women are liberated. We are equals! *HapPy* Ever since the 1971 if I remember correctly.

Please, to those who feel insulted, don't be. I never meant for this to point out at anybody. Sorrie okie? :) I mean, I do know that everyone wants a good life. But the question is HOW~? How do you want to achieve that good life? What do you really want to achieve in life? Do you want to look back in life one day when you're old and your only achievement is marrying right? Not me.

You know, I'm just being concerned, not pointing fingers at people and call them cash croppers (money suckers). I'm not the kind to make assumptions, jump into conclusions and then make judgment based on whatever little information registered, right, Ru Hua~?

Posted by Stanley @ 10:44 PM

Saturday, April 09, 2005

I decided on writing an entry here today cos I sorta wanted to be heard but too lazy to start my own blog. Pardon me but here goes:

You know, these days I keep thinking about some stuff and it is really disturbing. What is happening to our little ladies nowadays? Not that I'm really so old and detached from current stream of society but I feel really sad. Yes. Sad, disappointed, would be the words. Or maybe it has always been just me, too oblivious to the situation around me until it slapped me in the face. I guess you have not a clue what I am saying but in short, UNREALISTIC MATERIALISTs is my topic of the day.

BUT, I am not saying that everybody is one, mind u. =) A lot are really not. At least there's hope in that aspect. Have you come across someone or many girls, as a matter of fact, that seems/seem to care for not much more than material satisfaction? Sometimes I think it is society. Molded us that way. Maybe we are becoming the new Japan, where their younger generations' goal is living for the moment? Have you thought about that? I believe that every single person CAN more/less control your own future. You can choose whether or not to cross that road, and whether to flirt with that man across the bar. Actually I believe that a proper conversationalist and good looker can win any guy’s heart (having substance in conversations is also a factor). AND I believe that mentally, whether guys want to know or not, girls are just as good, if not better.

Than WHY, I would want to ask, are so many girls seeking the easy way out? We can work for our own future AND carve our own careers. HELLO, wake up and smell the coffee, this is not the sixties where we have to fight for the landlord's son so as to ensure we don't have a physically taxing life and still be guaranteed that our husband, given the extra cash, will have extra ladies behind his back. Somehow, I know I sound ridiculous but please my darling ladies, don't be seduced by the luxurious life you wish to have and pay with interest, your future happiness. If you have taken basic economics, you would know that there is always this pie chart where if you had more of this, you would have to forsake the other. True enough, I believe it relates to life basically too. Just how big or small that pie depends on your effort.

Our kindergarten innocence is long gone. Monetary evil settled as soon as we got our first 70 cents allowance from Mummy/Daddy. But morality still prevails I believe. At least I see it in many a young woman. It is never too late to turn back. Why make men feel like they can AFFORD us? Women fought for independence and so why waste it? I dun really see us as toys, do you?

This is actually very opinionated. Maybe you might think that pursuing for a wealthy lifestyle your way is your business and it is right. Ok. I might be wrong too. It is up to you. Your set of values. What are your values? Do you still keep what your parents/teachers taught you? I am only saying this because I care (a lot) and I would like to state that this entry is definitely NOT targeted at anyone. Just generalizing. Why try to get hurt? Growing up is a phase. I learnt the hard way but I never sold my dignity. Not to any man. But embarrassing yourself for the one man you love is fine. (exp. He slaps your butt unwittingly in front of your friends.)

I do not know if I would make any sense to anyone reading this cause I have some mixed feelings about this as well. Being female, we usually have this 'not-having-to-pay-for-the-cab-fare-after-clubbing-with-guys' thingy. But where should we draw the line? Think about it. I believe you already have the answer.

Posted by Stanley @ 10:26 AM